With my husband out of the country for 4 days, I approached the idea of Mother’s Day alone with Jax with mostly excitement about having a lot of time together but also with a little bit of worry about my day potentially going awry due to some toddler tantrum or another. So I kind of split up my Mother’s Day into chunks of time all weekend, beginning on Friday. To kick off Mother’s Day weekend, I left work 2 hours early to give myself a bit of downtime and self-care.

My version of self-care includes wine, journaling, and delicious food (guacamole and black bean chips this time).

My version of self-care includes wine, journaling, and delicious food (guacamole and black bean chips this time).

Saturday, it rained in the morning, so we hung around the house a lot. Eventually, we made it to Target for crafting supplies and snacks, and then we came home and drew, glittered, and stickered handmade Mother’s Day cards for both grandmoms. We ate Oreos.

Glitter + Oreos? Sounds pretty fantastic, right?

Jax selected Disney princess stickers for his grandmoms because "they look like princesses."

Jax selected Disney princess stickers for his grandmoms because “they look like princesses.”

The rest of Saturday, we alternated laying around the house with some outside play. Around 3:30, he finally napped (boy did he need it!) on my lap. I enjoyed the snuggles while I watched something other than Disney Jr on the tv.

It was adorable. I wish he'd nap more often! I got to watch 2 episodes of Arrested Development!

It was adorable. I wish he’d nap more often! I got to watch 2 episodes of Arrested Development!

Jax fell asleep pretty easily Saturday night, and we both slept very well. I believe that’s why Sunday was so fanastic.

Fantastic may not even accurately cover how perfect my day was. I woke up an hour before Jax and sipped my coffee slowly while it was still hot. I caught up on social media and watched a bit of Mad Men (I am SO behind). When he woke up, we went to breakfast with my parents, who treated.

After that, we hung around the house for a few hours. We ended up in sweats, both of us, and cleaning the living room (what kind of a Mother’s Day is this?!). It was actually pretty fun, because in my twisted head, few things make me happier than a clean house. I had planned to take him on a long walk at a park with a long track, and then let him loose on the playground after I got a few miles in, but after we cleaned, he’d started to play by himself, quietly and contentedly, so I opted to not rock the boat. I stayed in my sweats, parked my butt on the floor, and read a magazine and listened to music instead.

My cleaning buddy

My cleaning buddy

Eventually, we got our walk in. First, I hit the Dunkin Donuts drive through for my new favorite drink: the mint chocolate chip iced coffee (milk, no sugar–in case you want to surprise me sometime!). That baby came on our walk with us. We walked for about 30 minutes and then played on the playground for another 30 before returning home. A friend came over, bringing 3 bottles of wine over as a gift for me (so nice!!), and had a glass of wine with me while Jax played on the floor nearby.

These bouncy things are so much fun! But they're very ugly.

These bouncy things are so much fun! But they’re very ugly.

Ok, so maybe I rode one of the bouncy things, too.

Ok, so maybe I rode one of the bouncy things, too.

Jax bestowed me freely with plenty of kisses and hugs all day. He was affectionate, calm, well-rested, and tantrum free all the way until bedtime. At one point, he even curled up on the couch while we listened to music and he rested without a word. This lasted so long I had to check to make sure he hadn’t gotten into the medicine cabinet! I’ve never seen him so calm, quiet, and still (while staying awake) for so long! When I’d look over to see if he’d fallen asleep, he’d flash me a huge grin.

I can count on one finger the number of times he's done this! Ha!

I can count on one finger the number of times he’s done this! Ha!

Around dinnertime, we made a frozen pizza (his favorite thing to do is pick off and eat some of the frozen cheese) because I didn’t feel like cooking. Then a different friend came over, and we had a glass of wine and played in the yard for 2 hours.

Bath at 8, bedtime at 8:30. After some snuggling with me and his newly discovered stuffed elephant (which I bought when I first found out I was pregnant with him), he was asleep by 9.

Mother’s Day was the kind of day my soul craved and exactly what I needed after two challenging days full of toddler tantrums. I am so grateful for having had such a peaceful, relaxing day with Jax. It was my best Mother’s Day yet.

 

Joy comes to us in moments—ordinary moments. We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary.” ~Brene Brown

I have missed many ordinary moments lately because I’ve been too distracted to notice them. The past few weeks have been busy, complete with travel, car shopping, a holiday, and more!

As a result of this current burst of busyness, there has been a paucity of ordinary moments such as these: Overhearing Jackson’s imaginative stories as he plays by himself. His singing in the bathtub, making up silly lyrics. Telling someone something personal and hearing them say, “Me too.” Bubble baths with a book and a glass of wine. A fuzzy pair of slippers and jammies thrown on immediately after dinner. Singing along to the radio on the drive home.

I’m craving a night at home to simply do laundry (wait, did I just say that I want to do laundry?!) and play cars on the floor with Jax while sipping a glass of wine in my pajamas. Tonight, I hope, will be that night.

What are some of your favorite ordinary moments?

 

Guess where my family is headed this weekend? Here’s a hint:

Ignore the messy hair, please, and focus on the ears!

Ignore the messy hair, please, and focus on the ears!

My parents bought my family, my siblings, and themselves trips to Disneyworld for Christmas 2012. Back then, March felt forever away, but here we are, on the day before our departure–and me with a bazillion things left to do before I can get into a vacation mindset. Isn’t that always how it goes?!

Tomorrow will be Jackson’s first Disneyworld vacation (but probably not his only), as well as his first time on an airplane. We chose to fly with Southwest because of the great word-of-mouth they typically receive from bloggers who fly with their kids, in addition to the schedules and perks like bags checked free of charge and in-flight wifi.

I am slightly nervous about how Jax will do on the 2.5-hour flight from Philly to Orlando. But I am reminding myself today that he usually is very well behaved and pleasant, and I usually do a whole lot of worrying for no good reason. I’m also nervous that I’ll have forgotten to pack something essential, but of course everything is replaceable if you’ve got the cash or the cards. Note to self: Don’t forget the cash and cards!

After this past week with its cold-from-hell and a near-ER trip with Jax, I’ve never been more mentally ready for a week in the sunshine. The weather in Orlando is in the mid to high 80s currently. I’m thinking that will eradicate any remaining germs! I just hope Philly weather gets itself together while I’m away and I come home to spring!

The only downside to all the sunshine I’m going to bathe in? Freckles. Even with a good sunscreen, the freckles on my nose and cheeks will reach the hundreds after this coming week. Ugh. They’re cute on everyone else, in my opinion, but I hate ‘em on my own face. I’m curious whether Jax will get any new Floridian freckles!

By the way, I’ve lined up a special guest post for Monday, so please don’t you stay away while I’m away.

Have a fantastic weekend!

 

Happy New YearIt dawned on me this morning that I simply don’t feel like doing a year-in-review post. So I’m not going to! At least, not in the typical way. I have to admit, the primary reason is that I honestly can’t remember all the things I did this year! And I’m too lazy busy to review this year’s photos to figure it out!

But I will say about this year that I was impressed when WordPress shared my blog stats with me and I saw that I posted 142 times. That’s pretty good, with a post every 2.57 days, if I did the math correctly. I hope to keep that up in 2013, although I fear I’m running out of things to write about!

So you might get a few rambly posts (like this one) here & there. We’ll just call them “stream of consciousness” posts (because that sounds better).

In 2012, like many bloggers I follow I chose a word to inspire me throughout the year: “better.” I wanted to wake up each morning and do better than the day before. I wanted to strive to be better–a better mother, a better wife, a better employee, a better blogger, a better friend…you get the idea. I’m not sure I am sitting here this morning any better at any of those things than I was a year ago today. But the word kept me striving, so there’s that.

In 2013, my word will be “enough.” As in, I’m giving up the pursuit of (near-)perfection and aiming to be a good enough mom, a good enough friend, and so on. I put way too much pressure on myself to be good at everything. And we all know what happens when we pressure ourselves too much! So in 2013, I’m cutting myself some slack.

Enough, to me, also means knowing when enough is enough. Knowing when to back away from things like drama, overbooked schedules, and too many unfulfilling commitments. Hopefully this frees me up for more fun, relaxation, and energy! The twist is that saying no to things will probably help me be a better x, y, and z!

I’m looking forward to some big things in 2013. I’m traveling at least 4 times: Jax will visit Disneyworld for the first time in March, thanks to a super-generous Christmas gift from my mom (to the whole family). That also means his first flight, which has me a little nervous given that he’s already saying he doesn’t want to go in a plane! Then in June, I think I’m going to Las Vegas for a work trip. It’ll be a quick trip, like they always are, but I’ve never been there, so I’m getting excited about it. Who wants to join me? I sure as hell don’t want to wander around that city by myself. In July, my family rented a shore house, so there will be lots of relaxation in the sun and sand. And then in September, I’m traveling to Washington, DC, again for work. And I’ve been there a thousand times, so it’s nothing special at this point, but maybe I’ll take Jax and the husband with me and we’ll see some of the museums we didn’t hit last time.

There is most likely going to be a new car in my new year. (And hopefully a new salary to help out with that! Haha!)

Aside from the excitement of travel & new wheels, I’m sure 2013 has plenty of other goodies in store. I’m looking forward to the new year and seeing how it plays out. This year wasn’t bad to me, but it definitely had its twists–both good and bad. They all do.

Happy new year! Be safe tonight! And don’t feel bad if you’re sound asleep by 12. ;)

 

photo by: Sean Rogers1

I am likely about to make you jealous.

Bloggers, ever feel inundated with ideas for posts you don’t have time to write? The ideas are there, buzzing around in my head, but the time isn’t. However, this morning I looked at the calendar hanging on my cubicle at work and noticed lots of scribbles–in other words, days off! Hooray! I counted them, like any busy mom who craves time alone would do.

Just look at all those days off from work! Eight, to be exact–plus the 1 on New Years’ Day. I’m working a total of 13 days in December. I’m working less than I am not working! I love this time of year!

It’s not exactly all peaches and cream, though–all those days off mean I’ll be wayyy behind when I return to work in January. But at least I’ll be well rested (in theory).

Over the break–which includes 11 days off in a row at the end of December–I will send Jax to daycare on a few of the days (& my husband will go to work as usual) so I can accomplish a few things around the house ALONE, including:

  • Undecorating the house from the holidays. Jax can’t be there for this. Too traumatic for the little boy who loves Christmas best.
  • Cleaning & catching up on chores. Every time I get a break from work, I try to give the house a good scrubbing. Sayonara, dust bunnies!
  • Finding homes for all the new STUFF (gifts). We already have so much stuff. Where in the world will all the new stuff go? I typically schedule a Purple Heart pickup or make a Goodwill donation during the week after Christmas. It feels good to declutter by donating.

And I’ll make a point to also indulge myself in some super-duper-mega self-care by:

  • Writing a few blog posts. I’d love to bank a few for when the inspiration or time are lacking later. Like when I’m overworking in January because of all the time off in December! There are many posts in my head just waiting to be written. I miss the days of having posts written and waiting in the Drafts folder to be scheduled for a rainy day.
  • Getting a massage. I’ve been holding on to a gift certificate for over a year now. Yes, a whole year! There’s never the right time to make this happen! But I’m thinking about spending one of the pre-Christmas vacation days finishing up my shopping and then relaxing with a massage. Assuming the thing is still valid….
  • Watching movies. This is something that’s fallen by the wayside in the 3 years of my son’s existence. Well, unless you count Disney movies. But there are a few mostly girly movies I want to see that nobody in my house would ever let me watch in their presence. Like The Notebook. Can you believe I’ve never seen that?! I’m sure it’ll be a total sobfest, but at least I’ll be alone, so who cares! Crying alone is good for the soul, right?!
  • Reading books while taking a bubble bath while drinking wine. Probably in the middle of the afternoon. So what.
  • Catching up with friends. That’s the best part of the holiday season, and I don’t plan to miss out!

So, what’s your December looking like? Wanna grab lunch?

I’m serious. Call me. I’d bet money that after a few days, I’ll be bored & lonely!