Dear Snooki,

I read what you said about breastfeeding during an interview on Good Morning America:

“I’m just scared…. My friend did and she said it was so painful … but I definitely want to pump because it’s the best nutrients for the baby…. It’s kind of like you’re a cow and you’re just milking.”

This veteran breastfeeder is here to assure you it isn’t always painful (and it shouldn’t be painful). If it is, you should seek the help of a certified lactation consultant as soon as possible, in addition to finding a friend who was successful with breastfeeding and is willing to both cheer you on and give you practical advice. Someone you’re not afraid to show your boobs to–which I’m guessing would be plenty of your friends, actually.

Anywho… breastfeeding isn’t scary at all–once you get the hang of it. Ok, ok, the first few weeks are a little weird and crazy (but not what I’d call “scary”). I mean, there’s (potentially) the leaking and the trouble latching and the round-the-clock feedings. But once the baby and you get a rhythm going, your confidence grows and you start to feel like you actually might know what the hell you’re doing. Soon enough, you might find you’re doing it in your sleep!

And the oxytocin (aka, the “love hormone”)! It’s like your brain is fist pumping. Really!

If you ask me (which would be really something, wouldn’t it??), breastfeeding was less scary than pumping. Sure, I got the hang of pumping, too, but I never enjoyed it like I came to enjoy breastfeeding. It was cold and loud and inconvenient–and I did feel like a cow (and who wants that?!). It was the opposite of nursing a baby. I did it because I needed to, not because I loved it. This feeling is also opposite to how I felt about nursing my son.

I nursed my son for 2 years and 9 months. If breastfeeding were scary or painful, trust me, I would have quit long ago. Pain isn’t really my thing.

I could ramble on and on about how breastfeeding isn’t really scary, but let me just stop and give you the best advice I have when it comes to nursing your little one:

Try it for a month, with a lactation consultant on speed dial. You may be surprised by how much you enjoy it.

When it comes to being a first-time mom, a whole lot of things are scary. And I think that’s normal. And it goes away eventually.

 

 

It’s World Breastfeeding Week! World Breastfeeding Week is celebrated in over 170 countries! I am so excited about this year’s World Breastfeeding Week, probably because it might be my final one during which I’m actually nursing. Given Jax’s sleep issues, who knows whether there will be any more babies for me. I need some amazing sleep for a few years first! (And then, I might not want to give that up for a newborn!)

There are a few things you can do to participate in World Breastfeeding Week. Here is what I’m doing:

 

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You can, too — link up your breastfeeding posts from August 1-7 in the linky below, and enjoy reading, commenting on, and sharing the posts collected here and on Natural Parents Network. (Visit NPN for the code to place on your blog.)

 

Here are a few other ideas:

  • Attend a La Leche League meeting. My local LLL meets this Wednesday, but because I missed 1.5 days of work last week due to being sick & being sleep deprived, I have to skip this one. I’m pretty sad about it. Go in my honor!
  • Nurse in public. Or at least smile at anyone you see nursing in public.
  • Check in on a new mom to see how breastfeeding is going and offer up your best tips.
  • Donate some pumped milk if you have any to spare or can pump a little extra.
  • Even if you’re not breastfeeding, you can be supportive of breastfeeding families you know. Get creative in doing this. Support can mean giving a hug or making a phone call or dropping off a box of Mothers’ Milk Tea or anything you want!

 

What are some other things we can do to spread awareness and celebrate breastfeeding? How are you celebrating breastfeeding this week?

I am 100% all for any breastfeeding accessory or equipment that helps mom stick with breastfeeding a little longer or that provides extra comfort to nursing moms and babies. I was very excited when I received a BabyBond nursing wrap in the mail to try out. BabyBond’s tagline on their website is this:

For nursing and conversing.
Feed your baby, nourish your relationship.

How lovely! They are so right–moms shouldn’t have to cover up their babies using those tentlike nursing covers typically sold at baby stores that make eye contact between mom and baby nonexistent.

Here’s how the company itself defines its product, since I can’t possibly say it any better:

BabyBond™ nursing accessories cover mom, not her baby. Mom is able to maintain her modesty. Baby remains uncovered benefiting from the infinite opportunity to make eye contact, interact, and communicate. After all, dining is social.

YES! Dining IS social! And when I read that, I felt guilty for using a tent when I nursed my son publicly for all those months. Now that he is 18 months old, we don’t usually nurse in public anymore. But when we go out, I’ll be sure to throw my BabyBond in my purse just in case. It’s small enough, when rolled up, to squeeze in there with the diaper and wipes.

Here’s how it works. The BabyBond is kind of like a sash made of a double layer of fabric with a slit in it. You place the fabric over you, like you’d wear a purse across your body or a pageant sash (you’re a princess!), and then you pull the end of the fabric through the slit to keep the BabyBond held in place. Then you gently separate the two layers at the breast to create an opening, through which you nurse your little one. So mom is covered up, and baby is right there smiling at mom. And mom doesn’t miss the smiles! Those nursing smiles are THE BEST thing ever. How sad to miss them because they’re being covered up!

Look how happy this mom is!

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Last summer, a friend asked me to write a list of my must-haves for breastfeeding, since I’d been doing it a whole year at that point. Below is that list. I figured I’d post it publicly where maybe it’ll help someone more than it’s doing by just sitting in my Sent folder.

But let me start off by saying this: please don’t be intimidated by this extensive list (which, by the way, is kind of in order of what I think is really good to have). All you really need is breasts, a baby, a support person, and some patience. If you’re returning to work anytime soon, the breastpump and maybe 3 nursing bras or nursing tanks to start are also good to have. The other items I listed are simply those that make the experience a whole lot better for you & baby. But there is something to be said for simplicity, so take this list with a grain of salt. I’m one of those people (and I often wish this weren’t true) who will shell out for a product that promises to make my life easier.

I’ve included links because 99% of this stuff is available at Target and/or Babies R Us.

A double electric breastpump: I have the Medela Pump In Style Advanced, and I love it. I highly recommend Medela products because not only are their products available at tons of stores, their customer service is amazing. Whenever I’ve called them with a question, they’ve mailed me new replacement parts overnight for free. Many other women have said the same thing.

I also have the Medela Harmony manual pump, which is handy to leave in your car or purse in case you’re engorged while out someplace without the kiddo and need to run into the bathroom to pump for a minute to get some relief (although I highly recommend learning how to hand express). Sometimes I used it in the middle of the night because it was quieter than the double electric and wouldn’t wake the baby. If you’re delivering at a hospital with a lactation consultant (LC) on staff, you may be able to just ask her to give you one (I got mine free that way).

A few nursing tank tops—way easier, more comfortable, and more convenient than nursing bras or regular bras/tanks. These tanks from Target are really great, and way cheaper than the ones anywhere else. I have 6 and I love them.

A Boppy or My Brest Friend pillow. This will help you position the baby closer to you for nursing, and will really save your arm, let me tell you! My husband even used it for bottle feeding. And it has other uses, like when baby is just learning how to sit up on his own, you can put this around him to cushion him. Or you can use it for tummy time.

A good book to help with your questions. I have The Nursing Mother’s Companion and Nursing Mother, Working Mother. I highly recommend the latter if you’re going to nurse/pump while working full time. I’ve heard that So That’s What They’re There For! is pretty awesome, too, as is Dr. Sears’ The Breastfeeding Book. The LCs at the hospital where I delivered gave me their self-published “blue book,” which was a total lifesaver. That book contained a feeding/diaper chart I used for the first 2 weeks. Make sure you get some kind of chart or notebook in to keep track of when you feed the baby (and from which breast) the day you deliver. Also, make sure you tell your L&D nurse before you deliver that you would like to see an LC as soon as possible after delivery. They’ll schedule it for you. Studies show that seeing an LC after delivery significantly improves your success. Plus, you’ll likely score some freebies from the LC.

Disposable breast pads: At least get one box for the first few months postpartum. I needed to use these for about 3 months! I think I went through 4 or 5 boxes. The Johnson & Johnson ones can be found at most drugstores. Or you can buy reusable ones and throw them in the washing machine. Or skip them altogether–new moms are expected to be covered in bodily fluids anyway! ;)

Disposable bags for collecting/storing milk: I have tried Gerber, Lansinoh, and Medela. The Medela ones are the most expensive, and not that much better than the others. I would go for the Lansinoh bags because they’re available in more stores (you can find them at any CVS, for example). If you’re not going to freeze any milk, you can get away with not using bags at all and just keeping the fresh milk in whatever bottles you pump into. It’s good in the fridge for 3-5 days in bottles.

I got this Medela feeding set at my baby shower and I still use it for collecting & storing milk, in addition to using bags. It contains the bottles that hook onto Medela breastpumps, along with nipples so you can just swap out the bottle cap with a nipple for fast feeding. It also contains 2.5-oz tubes for collecting & storing milk. Those come in very handy early on.

Milkbands—just one bracelet. This helped me keep track of what time baby last ate and on which breast. It’s so easy to use and I was glad to get rid of the paper and pencil by my side at all times. I ordered mine online for $6. Babies R Us has similar items, but they may cost more. I used my bracelet for about 6 months.

These microwave sterilizer bags are awesome for sterilizing pump parts and I also use them to clean pacifiers every few days. Each bag is used 20 times, so one box will last you months. If you prefer, you can just sterilize things the old-fashioned way with a pot of boiling water. This is just faster & more convenient. If you registered for a steam sterilizer, you can use that instead of the bags, too.

Lansinoh lanolin in case you experience any soreness, though they may give you some samples at the hospital.

A nursing cover, in case you nurse in public (or at someone’s house), so you don’t feel as if you have to leave the conversation and sit in a room by yourself! (Note: You really don’t. Nursing in public is to be commended!)

A Medela nursing stool to help position the baby closer to you those first few weeks or so.

Hope this helps (and doesn’t frighten)!

#5 - Nursing shirts aren’t the most stylish or affordable items of clothing, no? Well, guess what? You don’t really need them.

A cardigan or button-down blouse over a nursing tank will do just fine for the chilly weather. Or in the summer, a nursing tank with a regular tank thrown on top isn’t a bad look if you don’t want to wear just the nursing tank solo.

Forget those maternity stores that want to sell you an ugly nursing shirt for $85. Hit your local Target and get a nursing tank for $11-16. Hell, I own 6 of them in several different colors. Linky!

Boys, if you’re still reading, stop so I can talk about my undergarments a sec! (Trust me, it ain’t sexy talk!)

I own only two nursing bras—a racerback to wear under cute strappy tanks in the summer and a normal run-of-the-mill basic black bra for whatever else. Those puppies weren’t cheap, either! But I must say, I do live in the nursing tanks. They do double-duty and make great pajama tops, too!

The best part is, I can unfasten them (and refasten them) with only two fingers–a huge plus when you’re sleep deprived and trying to get your crying baby to nurse back to sleep quickly!