Earlier today, I drafted a much different version of this “I’m Doing It Right” post. It began with a long paragraph about how I’m in a funk and haven’t done a darn thing right lately–and how it seems people are so quick to point out my mistakes (I admit, I am probably just perceiving it that way). I launched into a second paragraph about the specific issues weighing heavily on my mind.
And then I deleted all of it.
I logged into Facebook for a quick break from these heavy thoughts, and I saw a post in the Mama’s Comfort Camp group to which I belong that sparked a thought that changed my day. My friend and fellow Den Mother, Andrea, asked our 700+ members this:
What’s ONE positive thing you’re going to do for yourself this week?”
How sad is it that I can’t think of a single thing?! This means I am in serious need of self-care, stat! Thanks for this prompt, Andrea!”
And then I ate a Hershey’s Kiss. It was delicious. So I ate a second one.
And I don’t even feel guilty about it at all because I just got back from a brisk 25-minute lunchtime walk.
So that’s what I’m doing right today & something positive I’m doing for myself!
Indulging in a piece of chocolate is an easy way to practice mindfulness. As I sucked on the chocolate, I tried to think about the sensations I was experiencing–the flavor, the texture, the way my mood was lifting…
This is actually a DBT distress tolerance skill my therapist has taught me. I self-soothed with 2 pieces of chocolate. I paused and focused on how good it made me feel. Reminding myself to be mindful and then actually doing it is another thing I’m doing right.
So, ha! Take that, stupid brain!