Ever feel like every female you know is pregnant? Like it’s some kind of conspiracy to get you to have another kid (or your first, if you haven’t joined the parenting club yet)?
That’s my life right now.
My husband and I decided long, long ago that we wanted only one child. I won’t list all the reasons for our decision here, to avoid a debate I really don’t need right now (because it would only confuse the situation even further), but I still think many of them were damn good reasons. Especially the one about not having a big enough house for a fourth person—fifth if you count my dog as a person (as well you should, considering his personality). And the one about not being able to afford two kids in daycare simultaneously is another biggie.
However…
Now that I have one child and know his adorable personality—in particular, how much he loves babies and how well he cares for them when he’s with them at daycare—I’m starting to reconsider the decision (maybe). Well, for that reason and because everyone around me is pregnant or “trying.” Do they know something I don’t know??? (Or are they just braver and/or wealthier?)
I hate like hell to admit that I felt my very first pang of jealousy last week upon hearing pregnancy news from a friend. And then a second pang the other day when catching up on blog reading and hearing of some bloggy friends’ news. And a third pang on Monday when another friend announced her second pregnancy. And let’s not exclude pregnant family members!
What. The. Frick.
I didn’t see those damn pangs coming.
This will pass, right?
Hopefully. Cause I’m going through it too. But not badly cause Diva its still 6 months old. But I am starting to think another one would be nice.
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I don’t know, but I do know that people have been busy this year. We want more than one, but for financial reasons we have to wait a couple of years. I don’t know how people do it, either, like you said.
I’m trying not to drink the water. Yet.
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It always seems there isn’t enough money or time or space and even love! It’s amazing how when the new baby comes…all of that goes away and you wonder what you did before you had a new baby!! On the other hand I can totally understand having one child! It’s a hard decision and easy decision all wrapped up in one! Some days I think I will do it again!!! Am I crazy???
Oh my goodness, yes – it seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant too.
We have 3 and we’re 99% sure we’re done, but I still get the pangs sometimes. I think part of it is just biology?
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YES, I’ve noticed this too! It seems that everyone on Twitter is pregnant and my “real life” friends are too. It’s hard for me in a different way though. My husband and I are actually trying to have another baby and it hasn’t been working. So that’s an ongoing struggle to hear about everyone else and not beat myself or wonder what’s wrong with me. ((sigh)) Isn’t it fun being a woman?? :)
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I won’t lie…
I get super stabby when I hear of pregnancies.
I know that I should be happy for them, and I am….
but I’m also jealous.
I hope to have another…one day.
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Dude, everyone online is freaking pregnant right now. And half the women I know in real life are either pregnant or have newborns, at least that’s what it feels like. I DO want another one – two or three other ones, in fact – and I keep telling myself it’s just not the right time, but the baby fever is hard to overcome. I can’t even imagine how it would feel to know I was done having babies. Part of me wants to space my kids five years apart just so that I can enjoy it longer. (The other part wants to pop them out in a row so that I can get some fucking SLEEP at some point when it’s all over.)
I tweeted this the other day but basically, having Sebastian makes me simultaneously want to have a million more babies and have NO more babies. In a good way. I can’t imagine another child living up to him, and don’t want to limit a single second I could spend with him. But of course everyone says you love them all equally, and the idea of little siblings absolutely slays me.
Here’s my opinion, for what it’s worth. I was really poor growing up- think government cheese poor. It really didn’t matter that we were poor because my parents made my childhood amazing. The house was filled with fun and laughter and it was pretty great. I know it may seem finiancially impossible to have a second child but if that’s what you want you should do it. I would love to e in your position, you shouldn’t squander it.
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With Nick turning one today, I have no babies in my house. I felt the pang too. I understand your reasons. Having a child is a very personal decision. It will pass, but never say never ;-)
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It will indeed pass! I had the same feeling a few months ago, and it was SO tempting. But we decided on one kid for a lot of reasons, like you said, darned good reasons. So it was hard some days–crazy hard!–but I am glad we’re sticking with one, for what it’s worth.
I hope it does pass. For your sake as well as mine :)
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